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I’ve had this caption penned for a few days and @mummyrepublic has just made it even more perfect to share tonight 😍🤰🏼⠀ ⠀ The current episode of the @mummyrepublic podcast, featuring @krystlebrant__ raises a topic that I’ve always thought is worth talking about- the ‘rule’ of waiting until 12 weeks to share your pregnancy announcement with the world.⠀ I know, everyone will feel differently about it.⠀ Medically, yes the risks of early miscarriage lessen after 12 weeks. ⠀ But why is it still taboo to share earlier? ⠀ I feel that the 12 week rule places many women in a situation where they have to hide their excitement. Hide their morning sickness. Hide their feelings. And sometimes, forces them to grieve on their own if they experience a loss. ⠀ ⠀ What is taboo about wanting to share your news, your excitement, your early milestones with people you know will be just as over the moon as you are? Whether it’s your friends, your family or your online friends & family?⠀ ⠀ What is taboo about wanting to share your grief with these same people if you’re unfortunate enough to be one of the 1 in 4 women who have a miscarriage?⠀ ⠀ If you’re a private person then of course, the ‘rule’ works in your favour 💕⠀ But not everyone is. ⠀ ⠀ We were unlucky enough to have two miscarriages in 8 months when trying for Everly. And I was so glad each time that I had already told all the people around me I was pregnant. For all the looks of disapproval I got when telling people early, I had a world of support available to me in the subsequent, incredibly sad times. I wouldn’t have changed that for anything.⠀ ⠀ So when someone tells you they’re 4 weeks, 6 weeks, 10 weeks pregnant, don’t ask them WHY they’re sharing the news early! Celebrate with them. And know that you’ll be able to support them should the unthinkable, worst case occur.⠀ ⠀ ⠀